Were we always kinky?

Were we kinky before D/s ?  I would say we’ve always had a fair amount of sex, regular sex.  Even when the children came along it never got old.  We had routine bedtime for them which allowed us time for each other in the evenings.  Whether snuggling and watching TV, chatting or fucking, we had a couple of hours for us.  Our bedroom was also a child free zone, for us only.  If either child was ill I would soothe them in their own rooms.  I had lingerie, infact I loved to wear it (and still do) and Mr E took photos of me, the old fashioned way, sending off the film to be developed.  I’m sure the developers had a good giggle as they printed off our snaps. 
Holidays, short breaks or weekends with friends were opportunities to fuck more frequently in new surroundings. On a balcony, in a bathroom, a roof terrace or just a different bed and of course take a few more pictures.

But were we ‘kinky’ ?
* I didn’t own a vibrator or any other toys.

* I had never tried anal.  A painkilling suppository, after the birth of our first child, was the first time anything had gone into my bottom !

* Oral sex probably only happened a handful of times.

* No blindfolds or gags

* No restraints, cuffs, rope or being held down.  I had fantasies about being tied up before I met Mr E but I didn’t tell him until we started exploring kinks in the bedroom.  

* No spanking and certainly no floggers, canes or paddles.

* No pain, no domination

Looking at these few statements I would have to say we were miles away from kinky.  We had our bodies, some lingerie and made time for each other. Vanilla sex all the way and neither of us were complaining even after we had been together for 20 something years. 

I read fifty shades of grey and thought ‘some of that sounds like fun’.  I told Mr E and so our exploration of ‘being kinky’ began.  I can honestly say that 1. we were not looking for something else and 2. we didn’t need a something else but I’m glad that it came about.  
So 7 years later and we’re still having fun at every opportunity.  I can’t imagine sex going back to totally vanilla, not just yet anyway.  

Underwater holiday snaps 20 something years ago.

11 thoughts on “Were we always kinky?

  1. I often think about when the kink all started and if it was there all along too. For HL and I we have not been together for as long as you have and so it was there from the start and was one of the attractions. It was there in fantasy before that and with one partner but not really with the others I think. I love that you have always taken the pictures though and that sex has always been a big part for you both. I guess that the kink has just added to and enhanced what was already there for you both. These photos are amazing and especially so because they are so old. Great post and thank you for adding to TMA. Missy x

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    1. I don’t know why we didn’t explore before? I guess we’ve always been happy with what we have so didn’t look. We’re enjoying the extras though, long may they continue 😍
      lilly

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    1. I agree Marie. Some parts of the book stirred something inside me and it’s fun exploring. I get that it did nothing for those already in the know but, for us personally, kink wasn’t on our radar before and thank goodness it is now 🎉
      lilly

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  2. I like the image in my mind of you taking these photos and having them developed at a branch of snappy snaps with a knowing look from the person behind the counter 😉

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